The absurd claim that time heals ALL wounds suggests that if we just hang on and wait, the suffering will magically disappear. What kind of nonsense is that? Of course, you can fill your time with distractions until the immediate emotion related to your pain subsides. You can drink until you can’t think anymore. You […]
Author: theundonemama
The Silence Of The Lambs
It took me a long time to break my silence. A full decade in fact. A decade of nurturing myself from a scared and angry child, into a weathered woman. A self taught, self sufficient, mature woman who grew a spine, and learned how to break the silence and secrets I kept for so many […]
Grace Upon Grace in Motherhood and Life.
I love the word grace for so many reasons. Mainly because I need it to survive. It’s given freely and consistently by God, and because of that simple fact I’m able to make myself new again every morning. It’s almost easy to give grace with the amount I receive on a daily basis. I want […]
The Black Sheep
Last year I freed myself from a lot of things that have held me down all of my adult life. I had a lot of daunting ghosts in the corners of my mind telling me that I needed to do this, or be that in order to be acceptable for others.. and never quite feeling […]
Know your worth.
Let’s say you got away from the toxic person in your life, but that you haven’t gotten their imprint out of your mind yet. Here’s the thing- in the past, I have started and stopped ten too many endeavors because of a lack of faith in myself. Any time I did convince myself to dip […]
Stop self-sabotaging
Anyone else with me? Let’s have a real talk about self worth. Potential colleges willing to sign me on for a softball scholarship? No thanks. I had great excuses. It was too cold in Kansas. It was too far from the nothing I was clinging to. It was a commitment. What even was a commitment? […]
New Definition to the Term, “Pot Head”.
This is my son. My son who gets himself into more sticky situations than I ever though humanly possible. He reminds me so much of myself. The poor thing really just can’t help it, he comes by it honestly. I am probably the least graceful human being on earth- second only to him.
For The Love of The Game
Often, when little girls are subject to the abuse of a narcissistic mother, they grow up and become reluctant to have children of their own. This was never the case for me. In fact, I ached for the day that I could have a do-over with a family of my own. I never had the […]
Get You A Husband.
Our entire wedding day went wrong. One of my favorite pictures though, is not the perfect shot that every little girl dreams of- but it’s a picture of me ugly-face laughing, with my husband tilting his head towards the floor giggling. He wasn’t laughing at the happening as much as he was laughing with […]
Undone
Let’s just pretend for a moment that I’m long gone, and even my own children’s graves have been filled long enough that wild bluebonnets have crept over where they rest. The house that my husband and I will build ten years from now will be uninhabited, and things would be just as we left them- […]